Modern Stories of Motherhood: Jessica Urlichs

Keepsake Jewellery at the Heart of Motherhood

My journey into motherhood started with my son Harry. We didn’t have the easiest birth and we had our struggles with feeding and while I was completely head over heels for him, I felt like I was losing myself, I didn’t realise that I could love being a mother, HIS mother, and be allowed to not enjoy every minute.



Can you tell me a little bit about how you got into writing and how this has helped you?

Writing allowed me to explore this concept, realise two things can be true, make sense of the messy and the magic and create a beautiful community of other mothers who felt understood and less alone.

I don’t often do things for me, well at least I didn’t. I didn’t have the time when they were young and hanging off my leg when I just needed a moment alone. I didn’t have the energy in the evening after a day of running around after a toddler while nursing a newborn all through the night. I also didn’t realise that doing something for me could be as little as a walk around the block listening to my favourite music alone, I didn’t realise that as precious as those tiny days were, I was missing myself and that I was allowed to, and that I would build up to ‘me time’ again, bit by bit. Stepping into the new version of me each day.

Creating this jewellery line with Francesca is incredibly special to me, because years later, after being through the throes of postpartum and now freshly into the school years, I see just how much we grow alongside our babies, that our work is momentous (even if we fail to see it at the time) and I want mother’s to see it. I want mothers to remember in that moment, with little arms around their neck, or hanging off their legs, little hands cupped on your cheek, that you are moving mountains every day.

This is important work, and you are at the core of it all.


When you hear people say that your words helped them, how does this make you feel knowing the feeling resonated?  

Knowing that there are other mothers feeling seen and heard by some of my poems has been one of the greatest rewards in my writing journey, being gently held and validated by each other makes this journey so much easier.


What do you love most about being a mum?

The thing I love most about being a mum is ironically how some days I don’t know where I begin and they end, they have brought the most fulfilling purpose to my life and I feel like I am reliving the beauty in the simple things again through their eyes. But sometimes we get lost in all the giving, and even though they give you so much more, we have to remember to give to ourselves, and to let them see that.

This is where my pendant ‘Not Just A Mother comes in’, You are not just a mother, you are a universe, you are stars that hold dreams, landscapes of home, rocks that will crumble but will always remain, the winds gentle sway and strongest roar. You are a mother, but never, ‘just’.

You’ll Always Be My Baby, (just heavier to hold) is the bittersweet reminder of the push and pull that is motherhood, while we look to the future on those harder days we often find ourselves looking back and wondering where the time went. Our babies will always be just that.

All I See Is You is from one of my most loved poems which is a love letter from your baby. You know those moments, it’s 2am and the moonlight seeps in between the curtains, your back hurts as you hunch over the cot for the fourth time already. Suddenly those little cries are subsiding and instead is a deep sigh of comfort. These nights aren’t easy, but they do end, for now, all they see is you.

Beautiful Chaos is just that, two words I use to describe my parenting journey often. It’s perfectly imperfect, a vision we never saw coming, and here we are, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. On those days where the house is a mess, you’re a mess and you can’t work out where you end and they begin, this is your reminder, we’re all in this Beautiful Chaos together, and this is yours.

Mama You’re Beautiful was actually a poem I wrote for a friend who had just had a baby. I remember how she answered the door, she apologised for her ‘state’, tired eyes, baggy stained clothes and messy hair in a mum bun. I remember thinking that she was the most beautiful I had ever seen her! On the days you forget it, this is your reminder, you are, and you are perfect to your children just as you are!


What advice would you give to mums out there who are going through the everyday struggles and joy that is parenthood?

If you’re going through the everyday struggles and immense joy in parenthood right now, remember you are not alone, they chose you to be their mum because you’re exactly who they need, YOU, just as you are, and who you will become.

Pockets of time are opening up for me now, and this version of myself does things for herself too, and she is a better mother because of it. One of the things I enjoy of course is writing, the healing that comes with organising thoughts through words and reaching others who need them too. I am so grateful to be able to bring these keepsake pieces to you, and I hope they remind you daily that you are seen, you are amazing, and you are more than enough x

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